We have been living together for 3.5 years, when we met I was 23, he was 27, we started living together almost immediately. During this time my life has changed abruptly: I finished my studies, found a good job with high salary, my parents helped me to buy an apartment, at their own expense I did all the redecoration, fitted out my flat.
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I am now 27 and he is 31. The only thing that changed was that he got a bit more money, he doesn't have his own place, we live at my place.
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Naturally, we don't have a joint budget, he pays the rent and sometimes buys groceries, I usually eat in restaurants separately or order ready-made meals.
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Of course he does not do the housework, he is a man, the cleaning lady comes to clean it.
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We went on vacation a couple of times, I paid for them and he gave me money back afterwards, for as little as he could.
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⠀ When he was doing the repairs, he said right away that he would not help with money, only with his hands, but he would help me furnish the place.
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In the end I did all the furnishing, and for two years I never gave him anything, because I did it all for myself and he did not need anything in general.
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On the one hand I feel sorry for him, but on the other hand I wonder if I should build a relationship with him or break up with him.