The situation is this, I am 42, my woman is 40, we decided to get married, but her past relationship is bothering me, not all of her past to be exact, because I understand that everyone has a past, but specifically her last relationship before me, which lasted 4 years.
The problem is that her ex is my work colleague and we work in the same department.
When I try to talk to her about her relationship I come across the standard phrases: it's my past, my personal life and it's none of your business, you accepted me, you knew I was seeing him and everything in that vein.
Yes, I have accepted her, accepted all her past relationships, as I don't know any of her exes, but this latest relationship pisses me off, it's not even jealousy but rather resentment that it turned out this way. Resentment for the fact that she was with him before me.
I do not know what to do next, maybe the girls can tell? I don't know if it was right to decide to marry her.
