Hello! I am Larissa, I am 51 years old. I have a husband and two children. My daughter is 21, in her 3rd year at university in Germany. I let her go there gritting my teeth and very reluctantly.
My husband insisted that she had been studying English/German at a language school for nothing. I really cried, feeling that we would not see each other for a long time!
Anyway, she only came home once in that time. I really hoped that she would study there, get an interesting experience, a diploma and come back home. It's good to be away, but it's better to be home. I hoped she would get tired and learn all the disadvantages of life in Germany.
And then, she started to tell me that she started running around on dates and hanging out with boys. For the first 2 years, she basically worked hard and dating was out of the question.
In her third year, she relaxed. She'd rather continue to be preoccupied with her studies.
And then, just recently, she tells me that she started dating a guy she's been interested in for a long time. I'm really upset.
I'm afraid she won't come home for sure now, she'll get married and settle down in Germany. I wanted her to marry our man. Ours are more sensible, so to speak.
But that's not the worst of it. She said her young man is mulatto. You'll forgive me, but tears came to my throat at once. How am I going to look people in the eye!
They'll laugh at me. I started talking her out of it. She began to argue and judge me, saying that I was in love, I had always imagined my man as such when I was a child, that he was the best, the most understanding, etc.
Anyway, girls, please don't splash mud, smart people with similar experiences, give advice on how to talk sense into her?
