Would you be pleased if your lover for an engagement ring gave his mother's ring (which is also three times the size)?

Or is it still important for every girl to choose a ring herself along with her beloved in the store?

I don't have a second-hand feeling on my finger. Am I gluttonous or is it really not normal? By the way, a ring with diamonds, gold, but it is not my visual at all, it is too pretentious, and I like elegance.

And then there's the superstitious moment: his mother divorced after a year and never wore this ring again. I don't like wearing a ring from a failed marriage, and it's not my taste either.